How Kids Who Take Martial Arts Can Defeat The Bully Without Violence
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Bullying has always been a part of growing up. But how a child deals with it and the repercussions of dealing with bullying have changed dramatically.
Incidences of bullying vary in severity. One thing that's certain is repeated attacks whether verbal, physical, written, or on the internet erode your child's fragile self-esteem. The CDC linked bullying to isolation, drug use, violence, and suicide! But your child does not have to be a victim. Follow these tips...
Here's The "One Word" Bullies Don't Want You To Know
The assault can be verbal or physical, either way the first line of defense remains the same. It's one word... Confidence! Here's why; Bullies choose their victims much like a criminal would choose a victim. They go for the easy and obvious target. So if your child looks like a kid who will get bullied, guess what, they're going to get bullied. On the other hand if your child radiates self-confidence they are less likely to be a victim, it's almost that simple!
Body Language is Key
This is the easiest step to teach but most difficult to learn since it takes a little practice. Have your child look in the mirror and talk to himself with his head up, shoulders square, and making good eye contact. He'll feel silly at first but remind him that a confident person will go far in life. After they are comfortable doing this then have them go out in the real world with their new body language skills. It will have a huge impact on how they are perceived and bullies won't even recognize him.
Parents Are Strong Role Models
Children learn self-confidence from watching their parents. So show your child lots of love and support while understanding that they are watching your to see how to deal with other people. If you talk to the cashier at the grocery store with a wimpy voice. Then you are teaching your child to do the same. Talk to the cashier while using great eye contact and you're teaching your child to do the same.
Have Your Child Confront His Fears
Get your child off the video games and get them interested in new things that will challenge them. When they take on their fears and get past the discomfort... that's when real confidence appears.
The tips mentioned above are to stop bullying before it starts. But what happens if your child is already a victim.
Wall Of Confidence
The next layer of defense is to create a boundary. Children can protect themselves with an assertive body posture: Feet apart a little, one foot in front, shoulders square, chin up, eye contact, and most importantly, hands up as if making a "Stop" Gesture! We call this our self-defense stance. Its purpose is to communicate neutrality, awareness and, assertiveness. This stance is designed to get them out of trouble.
Using Words Properly
Finally, your child will have to use their words. At Adventure Karate in Brunswick Ohio, we teach simple phrases and commands said in an assertive voice will tell the bully that they will not be a victim. Simple commands like; "Stop, Back Off, Back Away!" Said in the right tone will stop the bully in his tracks!
Safe Self-Defense
Of course if none of the above works (and the truth is nothing works every time) then your child will have to defend themselves. But only if and when their safety is threatened.
Internet Is The New Bully King On The Block
Know that the internet can create a bully problem if you give out too much information.
Social websites are a breeding ground for bullying. Teach your child NOT to give bullies online ammunition that can be used against them. Teach them that once an email or text message is sent, it can be taken out of context or used against them. NEVER should a child send inappropriate photos of themselves or allow anyone else to send these types of photos.
Cyber-bullying can be stopped with confidence and respect just like physical bullying.
Dealing with bullies is no easy task. The only thing you can do is develop in your child a high level of self esteem and confidence that will keep bullies at bay.
Incidences of bullying vary in severity. One thing that's certain is repeated attacks whether verbal, physical, written, or on the internet erode your child's fragile self-esteem. The CDC linked bullying to isolation, drug use, violence, and suicide! But your child does not have to be a victim. Follow these tips...
Here's The "One Word" Bullies Don't Want You To Know
The assault can be verbal or physical, either way the first line of defense remains the same. It's one word... Confidence! Here's why; Bullies choose their victims much like a criminal would choose a victim. They go for the easy and obvious target. So if your child looks like a kid who will get bullied, guess what, they're going to get bullied. On the other hand if your child radiates self-confidence they are less likely to be a victim, it's almost that simple!
Body Language is Key
This is the easiest step to teach but most difficult to learn since it takes a little practice. Have your child look in the mirror and talk to himself with his head up, shoulders square, and making good eye contact. He'll feel silly at first but remind him that a confident person will go far in life. After they are comfortable doing this then have them go out in the real world with their new body language skills. It will have a huge impact on how they are perceived and bullies won't even recognize him.
Parents Are Strong Role Models
Children learn self-confidence from watching their parents. So show your child lots of love and support while understanding that they are watching your to see how to deal with other people. If you talk to the cashier at the grocery store with a wimpy voice. Then you are teaching your child to do the same. Talk to the cashier while using great eye contact and you're teaching your child to do the same.
Have Your Child Confront His Fears
Get your child off the video games and get them interested in new things that will challenge them. When they take on their fears and get past the discomfort... that's when real confidence appears.
The tips mentioned above are to stop bullying before it starts. But what happens if your child is already a victim.
Wall Of Confidence
The next layer of defense is to create a boundary. Children can protect themselves with an assertive body posture: Feet apart a little, one foot in front, shoulders square, chin up, eye contact, and most importantly, hands up as if making a "Stop" Gesture! We call this our self-defense stance. Its purpose is to communicate neutrality, awareness and, assertiveness. This stance is designed to get them out of trouble.
Using Words Properly
Finally, your child will have to use their words. At Adventure Karate in Brunswick Ohio, we teach simple phrases and commands said in an assertive voice will tell the bully that they will not be a victim. Simple commands like; "Stop, Back Off, Back Away!" Said in the right tone will stop the bully in his tracks!
Safe Self-Defense
Of course if none of the above works (and the truth is nothing works every time) then your child will have to defend themselves. But only if and when their safety is threatened.
Internet Is The New Bully King On The Block
Know that the internet can create a bully problem if you give out too much information.
Social websites are a breeding ground for bullying. Teach your child NOT to give bullies online ammunition that can be used against them. Teach them that once an email or text message is sent, it can be taken out of context or used against them. NEVER should a child send inappropriate photos of themselves or allow anyone else to send these types of photos.
Cyber-bullying can be stopped with confidence and respect just like physical bullying.
Dealing with bullies is no easy task. The only thing you can do is develop in your child a high level of self esteem and confidence that will keep bullies at bay.
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